If anyone besides a few close friends from like 1st and 2nd grade expect me to listen about their problems or sex lives constantly, we won't be friends long. I prefer surrounding myself with people I can have fun with instead of wallowing in pity.
Same here.
I don't really consider hanging out to be "keeping them company" either, (though I suppose it is in reality) so I know exactly where this guy's coming from.
Guys bottling up their feelings isn't good for their own mental health or their surroundings, because you will snap sooner or later. I don't mean you should bitch about every little thing 24/7 but if there's really something bothering you, I strongly encourage you to tell your friends because not only can they offer solutions, getting things off your chest is usually a big relief.
I have my own ways of releasing those pent up issues without spilling them onto someone else. Most people in my life love to vent on me and Im just supposed to be okay with that. Fuck that noise. Im nice and try to understand but when the table is turned no one would return the favor for anything, venting or otherwise.
That honestly just sounds like you need better friends. I know we can't always choose people around us like in case of family, classmates, coworkers etc. but jeez, sounds like the people around you are selfish arseholes.
The Boiest of Fucks, if you will.
On a serious note, if the woman in question listens to her male friends problems and everything is fair and balanced, I don't see the problem.
I'll find it when I get home from school (tumblr is blocked at school). The idea was that men's friendship was doing stuff together for fun, and for women there was more emotional bonding. Men would only expect emotional bonding with a s.o. who is usually female. So he would tie emotional bonding with that.
I lost a wee bit of respect for the poster when they mentioned "the patriarchy" but overall it actually makes a lot of sense. This explains the "nice guy syndrome" and why some men feel used by a woman when she just wants to be friendly.
I don't really consider hanging out to be "keeping them company" either, (though I suppose it is in reality) so I know exactly where this guy's coming from.
On a serious note, if the woman in question listens to her male friends problems and everything is fair and balanced, I don't see the problem.
That backed it up with phycological facts and everything.