Yo, just cause this guy's a fuckwit, doesn't mean the rest of us are, smh. I mean, A guy should be able to provide for his family, but that doesn't mean he should stop his girl from pursuing a career if that's really what she wants to do.
"if that's really what she wants to do."
yeah, I think so about men. I mean, you don't need to work, you know, but it's cute you're trying, so if you really want to, I mean, if you don't have anything better to do, then, yeah, go ahead. but don't break a nail, ok? stay pretty for your wife, you adorable little duckling.
First of all, as already said, this is definitely a fuckwit, but luckily he made his level of douchery glaringly apparent for easy identification. Nothing worse than putting several months into a relationship before it suddenly comes out the other person is just a jackals in disguise.
I don't really see how it matters if someone you're dating is smarter than you or not, though. Obviously if the disparity is HUGE, as with any difference, there will be issues. But, I mean, You'll have different areas to add to in the relationship anyway, whatever they may be. As long as you can hold a conversation, hang out, and just enjoy being around each other/make each other happy, and they're not regularly setting themselves on fire, that seems like it's probably a pretty good thing to have going for yourself
Edit: it entertains me beyond reason that I offended someone by saying happiness with your partner is more important than whether you feel more or less intelligent than them
What makes this guy a fuck wit isn’t that he wants a partner who’s idea of a relationship are more antiquated gender roles. It is that he expects her to conform to his standards. There’s room in the world for informed and free people to decide they prefer a model where one partner is the primary “provider” and “protector” while the other acts as a “caregiver” and as “support.” That’s not my way, but I wouldn’t take that from two consenting and able minded adults who agreed. Relationships are in large part about finding people who share your values and goals, or compliment them. Expecting a woman to want to be “domestic” is no more or less wrong than expecting a woman to reject the concept. It’s uo to women, all people, to decide for themselves what they want. That said, trying to force your expectations or being rude or negative to a person for not wanting what you do is wrong. If you aren’t compatible move on and wish them well in the search to find someone who shares their ideas.
I think at some point, you also get annoyed if your partner is too busy with their studies. It’s same as when a girl gets annoyed when her bf is gaming 24/7. I don’t agree with how he thinks that a female’s place is in kitchen/house, but I agree with “you’re too busy for me” if you’re the kind of person who wants attention. But he did act dumb, smh.
If you get annoyed because your partner is busy bettering themselves then you are not mature enough to be in a relationship. There is a HUGE difference between studying/working towards a prestigious career and "gaming 24/7"
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· 6 years ago
I already have a maid. I need someone who can understand me and the reasons behind the things that I do, a "blonde" isn't going to get that. In fact, I prefer women smarter than me because you get to learn something too and you get to play the dumb guy act as well. No downsides to it.
Also, I don't think he is intimated by her, although there are guys out there who are. I think he just dislikes her because she has a degree or two. Wait, it's the same, ain't it?
"Quotation marks around single words can occasionally be used for emphasis, but only when quoting a word or term someone else used. Usually, this implies that the author doesn't agree with the use of the term. He said he was “working”; it looked to me like he was procrastinating"
I don't care that it's used for emphasis. 'Blonde' (A bloody hair color) is still used as a metaphor for stupidity. Which is ironic in a way, because said metaphor is stupid. Appereance is not a measure of intelligence. But by using it as such, both men and women are shamed for looking a certain way, and are forced into a box that fits their lifestyle according to others. Women and men can be both educated AND put significant time into their appereance. Women typically defined as 'pretty' who are in an academic field endure a lot harassasment, and are often not taken seriously because of their appereance.
The "you're an asshole because I'm offended" party is on fire today.
He was using it as an easy way to make a reference a lot of people understand. If anyone actually believes all blondes are dumb, they themselves are too stupid to live, and I don't see why you'd put any value in their opinion whatsoever.
Have you seen north America lately? Nobody has STOPPED dying their hair blonde because of this trope. Just because you, personally, take it too much to heart, doesn't mean it's something people need to raise their picket signs over.
Fucking hell, redheads were literally getting the shit beat out of them, being murdered left right and centre throughout history, and most of them STILL don't mind if you' imply they're a godless sociopath about to steal your soul.
Being blonde has nothing to do with your academic performance, and I hate to break it to you, people of all hair colors endure this kind of harassment.
Not to mention the OP literally said they prefer someone smarter
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· 6 years ago
I felt that explaining it was a waste of time but, man! You really made it worth it. Couldn't have worded it more perfectly.
yeah, I think so about men. I mean, you don't need to work, you know, but it's cute you're trying, so if you really want to, I mean, if you don't have anything better to do, then, yeah, go ahead. but don't break a nail, ok? stay pretty for your wife, you adorable little duckling.
I don't really see how it matters if someone you're dating is smarter than you or not, though. Obviously if the disparity is HUGE, as with any difference, there will be issues. But, I mean, You'll have different areas to add to in the relationship anyway, whatever they may be. As long as you can hold a conversation, hang out, and just enjoy being around each other/make each other happy, and they're not regularly setting themselves on fire, that seems like it's probably a pretty good thing to have going for yourself
Edit: it entertains me beyond reason that I offended someone by saying happiness with your partner is more important than whether you feel more or less intelligent than them
Only boys eat wet nuts.
Also, I don't think he is intimated by her, although there are guys out there who are. I think he just dislikes her because she has a degree or two. Wait, it's the same, ain't it?
He was using it as an easy way to make a reference a lot of people understand. If anyone actually believes all blondes are dumb, they themselves are too stupid to live, and I don't see why you'd put any value in their opinion whatsoever.
Have you seen north America lately? Nobody has STOPPED dying their hair blonde because of this trope. Just because you, personally, take it too much to heart, doesn't mean it's something people need to raise their picket signs over.
Fucking hell, redheads were literally getting the shit beat out of them, being murdered left right and centre throughout history, and most of them STILL don't mind if you' imply they're a godless sociopath about to steal your soul.
Being blonde has nothing to do with your academic performance, and I hate to break it to you, people of all hair colors endure this kind of harassment.
Not to mention the OP literally said they prefer someone smarter