But cutting off your legs would cripple you and would be extremely painful, shaving arm hair is painless is easy. I'm not saying that guy is right but those are two completely different things
Normal people in western society, of both sexes, prefer mostly hairless women. He is not a "fuckboy" by any means, just a NORMAL boy. Of course, it is certainly the girl's prerogative to be a wookie if she so desires and perhaps he should not try to change her.
Um no it's not normal at all. Women shaving has only really been a part of society for the last 80 years, it's bases on trends and fashion not what you classify as "normal". Calling some one a woodie because the have natural body hair is insulting and childish. In many cultures its perceived as "normal" to have plates in your lips or stones embedded in your back. Just because it's what you "think" is acceptable distant mean it's the norm.
Saying something is "normal" makes out that the other is "abnormal" which isn't the case. Your basically making out that your preference is acceptable and what's natural isn't. Also calling some one names babe cause they don't uphold your beauty standards is a bit BS. We live in a society that demeans and degrades women constantly, it's unfair we can't exist in a natural state and not get abused for it, or told we have to change to meet others preferences, even when a lot of the time these preferences are just conditioning. It would just be nice not to be told your hideous or not appealing because we have hair we were born to have.
Maybe the term "regular" is more sensitive than normal, I suppose? I guess normal makes something seem like something else is abnormal buy when something is "regular" it means how regularly something occurs. In this case, how regularly someone who is born prefers women who are shaved.
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· 8 years ago
Here is the problem: if there's a lot of hair, chances are it's very coarse. Shaving it or even using a hair removal cream will probably cause a stubble in short order, which will be something else for him to complain about. Laser removal is not cheap, especially for thick hair, and will only work at top efficiency on certain skin tones. Waxing will only work once the hair is far enough past the growing in stage for the wax to grab. So what's being asked for isn't just hairless arms, it's a dedicated and potentially expensive upkeep. If you mind the hair enough to be unable to overlook it, you probably don't like her as much as you think. This goes the same for women who demand a man shave or cut his hair...if something that small drives you nuts now, you should probably move on.
I never understood why people say things like this or people who have a "type." It is ridiculous! You would give up the chance to be with the love of your life, your soul mate, over something as stupid as height, hair, age, etc.?
Everyone has preferences, that's not a bad thing. But I'm sure if you really like the person, you'd get over the fact that they don't look exactly how you want them to. Which is why I don't think this guy really likes the girl he's talking about all that much, if he's bothered so much by her arm hair.
Generally speaking, if someone is not your type (type usually includes more than height or age, its more of a combination of many) than you are not sexually attracted to them and sexual attraction is usually very important in a healthy relationship(unless your asexual or something else i dont know about). If you arent sexually attracted to your partner than you wont have a well functioning relationship which is bad. I also dont believe in soul mates so in my book you could find someone else equally as good that is your type.
Sexual attraction is not even remotely the most important thing in a relationship. There are far more important things that contribute to a healthy relationship. But people get caught up with stupid stuff like in this post.
its a pretty basic fact that emotional attraction to a person brings physical attraction. when someone is likable you just find them more attractive, it even works with friends - you think they are better looking people than they are simply because you find them good people. physical attraction to a type plays a role but if you're put off by arm hair you move on not ask the person to change their arm hair. but sexual attraction IS important in the vast majority of relationships, the typical average healthy person needs physical attraction to have a healthy relationship, but your brain is a pretty neat thing and will make you physically attracted to people that attract you in other ways.
As a girl with 'hairier' arms, I'm really self conscious about it. I can't really help it and if you shave your arm hair it will grow back even worse. So in my opinion, while it's okay to have preferences for what's attractive to you, you also need to keep in mind that some people just want to be accepted for their flaws and all.
Arm hair? Fucking arm hair? Yeah it's not like it's enough that we shave legs, armpits, genitals, some women even shave their bellies! I have sorta hairy arms and I used to be fine with them, until a fuckboi comes by and says that he wants women to shave their bloody arms...
The opinion of the public is still important for our social lives. Realizing how dumb the average people are, and that a half of them are even dumber, it's sad to see that these people control the world because they're the majority. And they're also annoying.
What makes you think your smarter than the average person?
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That's kind of what I was wondering too. I guess it's kind of like how everyone thinks they're more of an exceptional driver than anyone else on the road when in fact they're average
My IQ test, I suppose. That in itself is not a determining factor, but also the fact that I've been accepted to a selective high school a few years ago, also I was chosen to represent our city as an exchange student to the US last year... It's also been proven that everyone thinks of themselves as above average, so maybe it's just that.
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With all that said, you manage to write "Realizing how dumb the average people are"? Also you can have a very high IQ and do exceptionally well in school and still be dumb.
IQ is an indicative of problem solving skills, that's true. That is also why I wrote that it's not a determining factor. And yes, even not very intelligent people can do well in school if they study hard, the thing is I almost never study and have As/Bs. Combined with the fact that the tests for the school I'm on were both problem-solving and knowledge based tests, I suppose it's safe to say I'm at least slightly above intelligent. I don't know what's problem with "realizing how dumb average people are". Although I hate bragging, I have proof of higher intelligence, and I think there is nothing wrong with having a healthy self confidence. I used to be extremely shy (well I still am quite shy) and underestimate myself a lot. I never participated in any contests because I thought I'd lose. It changed about two years ago, and since then I did well in almost everything I participated in. So, in my opinion, it's not bad to say something good about yourself, provided you have proof.
I think I can consider myself an oddity because I see myself as fulfilling a low standard because I don't put my heart and soul into my work. You mentioned that you breeze through your work and I respect/admire the fact that you can do that (I can too) but I'm also disappointed that [we] don't try harder and push ourselves and do more work such that our A drops to a B- due to the more work. However, it's a hard-won B- as opposed to an easy A that I want from me. But I know enough of the world that nobody gives a fuck how hard you work, only what you can produce. I've started rambling and lost my point. See if you can get anything out of that mess I spewed.
Oh no, I totally understand you. A hardworking person is often percieved as more valuable than a talented one who just gets everything right without even trying. One should find a balance between being able to improvise and work hard to reach some results.
Everybody has their preferences, but it's always good to question why we have them, is it conditioning? Social pressure? Or a genuine like? In the end if your truly into someone the physical aspects melt away. Hair is unimportant, a whole heart, a good soul and a strong mind are what stand the test of time.
Yeah. When you're old and you've gotten past the attraction-on-physical-appearance stage. But it seems like you're trying to say that physical appearance =should= have no bearing on a relationship and that's absolute bullshit. It may not matter once the relationship is built but it's incredibly important in starting one.
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Being hairy is fine as long as the hair on your body isn't as thick as the hair on your head.
Well thank you.
The more ya know
Yeah but it's a factor. And you want as many factors right as possible.
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eight?