This happen to anyone else? (Sorry this isn't "fun")

This is like most of my relationships

This is what happens when you put your faith in humanity. Better to assume that everyone is horrible.... then you can be nicely surprised when they do good rather than constantly disappointed by their actions.

Maybe it's also OK for ppl not to be as perfect as you imagined. It can be liberating to accept ppl for all their flaws and love them anyway. (Granted, of course, those flaws aren't harming you or others!)

I really liked this girl (platonically) but then she revealed that she hated gay people and was a vegan who wouldn't let anyone eat meat in front of her

Those moments are your signs to make space. If you ignore them, you will suffer the consequences.

Sometimes when your expectations are high in someone, it might feel like a let down when they don’t meet them.

Not really no. No matter what, the person we like is somewhat a fake person. That person exists in our head, but we don’t really truly know them as they are- our perceptions shape our image of them. We can try to be as honest and objective as possible- but there’s always a little of that projection. But that’s not the point. The point is that we can’t buy into our own hype. I’ve never met a person who wasn’t flawed and so I don’t expect to meet one who isn’t. I’ve never met a person who didn’t let me down at some point so I don’t expect to meet anyone who will never let me down. People will fail you, disappoint you, hurt you, betray you- given enough time everyone will. That’s ok. Because you aren’t perfect either. Just human. Faults and all. So I don’t judge them on their faults or on who I think they are. I take in what they do, and wether they stick around even when I let them down too. If there’s more bad times than good, and things are balanced- that’s just fine by me.

You meet someone. They like a whole bunch of stuff you like, and know a lot about it that you don't know. But suddenly, they start fighting you about that stuff, and pushing their opinion on to you. It takes outside intervention to break the spell and get you to see what kind of horrible person they are. But you've got another friend who is still trapped in the spell. Even after they've shed tears over this one person, they refuse to leave them.

I got a crush on someone who later called me an abomination. Kinda shattered my mental image.

I think this is how everyone meets everyone.

literarly everyone has flaws. everyone. you just gotta find those that don't have fatal flaws and who treat you as kind as you treat them.