Agreed. I'd chose the one who was smart and had similar interests.
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Put a gun to my head and force me to chose with only those descriptions... I'd chose the everyday girl. Frankly, I find the description of blondie a turn off.
I don't think an average girl is "undesirable" and I don't think blondes are all that bad. Neither girl should be patronized. I think no not every girl is beautiful. I think beauty is in the eye of the beholder and that a person is beautiful to at least one other person. (And beauty isn't skin deep stuff)
Why are blondes that bad? I mean yes some are but it's not fair to judge people on their freaking hair color. I'm blonde and quite frankly I'm a loser. I have acne. I also have blue eyes. Not all blondes are skinny perfect bitches. Preach.
@purplecar5:
It's not the blond hair that I am speaking about, it is the entire description. I guess I am revealing that despite my efforts, I might be playing to steriotypes... but I just don't find the description appealing.
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@barelybreathing:
Smarter than me? Now that's hot.
My preference are brunettes and I'm not really keen on girls who wear makeup (my wife doesn't wear any). So if I was free it'd be the second one. But that's just me.
@runningonlove. I totaly agree with you bc it's true. Now I don't want to be a victim of my own comment but I would, if she had no acne, the second one. It is all about my and your personality.
I'm average looking and a great guy decided he wanted the "pretty" girl instead of me once he got the chance. Sometimes people just want the more attractive face, no matter what they say they would choose at this moment from behind their computer screens
I've been there and had the choice, except the girl was a brunette instead of a blonde. The girl was horrible and treated me like shit, but I stayed around because she was hot. The missing part of this equation is is personality, how the girl will treat the guy.
Because she was hot, she put out, and she constantly told me I wouldn't find any girl better than her. At the time, I figured I couldn't be that stupid, that this must be something, cause why else would I be in this relationship? It wasn't until she got pregnant from another guy that I finally dropped her.
Sounds like a girl that thought she was all that and a bag of chips. The thing is that those kinds of people often don't come down from that kind of thinking.
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In these cases, your sense of and desire for karmic retribution may be satisfied just knowing that she will be still thinking/saying/trying to project that when she is actually a sad and worn out shell of her former self... a poverty level single mother with few, if any opportunities available except maybe welfare.
No intervention for revenge required, some people just burn themselves down.
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If anyone in a relationship EVER tells you that, whether you are a man or a woman, the relationship is taking a turn for the toxic. They will tear you down and convince you that you are nothing, that you are worthless and dependent on them. These behaviors are clinically psychopathic and do not form heathy relationships. Anyone with the tiniest hint of codependency is especially vulnerable.
I'm a better person for being with such a toxic woman; she taught me what I don't want, don't need, and what to look out for in a future mate. In my opinion, everybody needs to be in one really shitty relationship in order to get some perspective.
When I hear "lost time" my mind immediately goes to the X-Files! But in my opinion, no, just so long as you learn something from your experience, then nothing is lost.
Wow this sounds so stupid that I feel the need to clear this up. The above doesn't really apply to all people.
1. The author is making claims that long blond hair is preferable to un-styled brown hair. First of all, long isn't a style... Second of all do your research saying more men prefer brunettes to blonds. Here are a few websites, but again the stats aren't too overwhelming, its a matter of preference.
http://www.chacha.com/question/what-are-the-statistics-on-if-guys-prefer-brunettes-or-blondes (basic chacha)
http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_600/655_blondes-and-brunettes.html
And there are a lot of others but this is too full of bs for me to spend too much time on one stupid claim.
2. Weight. Okay girls (including myself) are obsessed with being skinny. Studies show than men, however, prefer NORMAL (note this doesn't mean average in America but just what is considered healthy) over super skinny weights.
http://m.newser.com/story/72800/men-prefer-normal-weight-women.html http://www.chacha.com/question/what-weight-do-men-prefer-women-to-be
again more research to be done
3. acne- not gonna lie acne is undesirable, but it was probably just added in there to make it clearer girl 1 is better
4. outfit- Obviously looking sharp is important but just putting this out there everyone has days where they dress it down and if they are pretty enough they can still be attractive
5. Makeup/no makeup is a preferance and again just because you wear makeup one day doesn't mean you can't the other.
http://www.guysboysandmen.com/2011/04/do-men-like-makeup-on-women-real-guys.html?m=1
So in the end here is the take away message. Girl 1 isn't BETTER than girl 2 for ie makeup/outfit because you can apply that and change that. This is just kind of putting someone down for how they act but who wants someone that will never be girl 1 or girl 2? I think there are times to be both of them
Thanks! I just know these kind of posts hurt people's self esteem. the first girl describes me perfectly some days and others I'm the second. I just think people need to know facts and surveys rather than what some rando wrote. Also, never make an argument without research ;)!
Okay... This is a fact! The guys that place more importance on personalities instead of looks have more steady relationships and better lives. The assumption that "plainer" girls don't get picked as often is BS. I know that most of the stereotypical blonds that are gorgeous don't have boyfriends because they have horrible personalities!
Yeah you guys can say its all about personality but what if you walked by these two. Who gets an extra look? The one who is more pretty. This post is true and sometimes we dont like the truth.
The one that get's the extra look is the one that stands out more. People might slow down when they walk by a nice car, but will flat out stop to look at a car crash.
If I were in a bar, I'd walk up to the hot one. I'm sorry, but it's just what people do. I don't go "maybe she has a nice personality" because the same is true for ANY woman, regardless of attractiveness.
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Sorry ladies you might think I'm lying for 'attention' but no, I'm not much of a looker and I don't want people picking at me so I would choose the average one. Edit: for example there's this girl in my school who I'm super close with and I do have feelings for her. I think she's beautiful, I like her body. Almost everything about her, especially her personality. But when I told my friends they pointed out that she has braces, she has to wear a leg brace, she's a bit fat. My reply is so what, I actually do find her attractive and she has blonde hair. I'm not lying I do like her and think she looks beautiful even with her "imperfections"
The blonde girl sounds creepy to me, but this is not true. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Just because you find someone attractive, doesn't mean everyone else will.
Also, people have the choice to wear or not wear makeup and casual or non casual clothes, but if one day the first girl was in daggy clothes and no makeup, would she still be as attractive as she was described as?
The sad simple fact if the matter is that you can never "win."
You can only make the choice that does the least amount of damage and/or pisses off the fewest people.
Just because you wouldn't, doesn't mean others won't. Don't judge others by your own standards. Other people like different things. I'm personally not attracted to skinny men. I never have been. And I've even had friends ask why I date "bigger" guys, implying that I'm making a poor decision since it isn't what they're attracted to. I choose who to date based on what I like in a partner, not what someone else likes.
I don't like that this is trying to make all men out to be shallow. Different people are attracted to different things. And one persons turn off, is another persons turn in. And your taking personality and compatibility out of the equation as if looks are the only thing people look for in a relationship. Even if you start a relationship in peak condition, the longer the relationship, the greater the chance of change in looks occurring. So if your only basing your relationship on looks, that's not a relationship that's going to last. People age, people gain and loose weight. Base your love on things that are not tangible, and it'll last much longer.
Edited because I can't seem to spell.
Of course, by comparison, the first girl is prettier. But calling someone beautiful isn't only about the physical qualities. You don't have to be pretty to be beautiful.
All mcdonalds burgers are delicious, but just because I want a Big Mac doesn't mean I don't think the quarter pounder tastes nice. Just because someone is more attractive doesn't mean the other person isn't. So please sit down and shut up!
Then again, you can't always wear sweats and a hoodie & expect guys to like you like that, sometimes you gotta dress up and show your sexy average-sized self!
I would pick the one that was more fun to talk to, no joke. Like as long as she isn't repulsive to me then i'm going to go with the one i enjoy talking to more and the "average girl" isn't repulsive so if the "pretty girl" is bland i'm going to talk to the "average" one
Honestly, i am moderately attracive and since that first girl is porbably an idiot/slut, she'll probably cheat on me, while the other average girl won't because she'll worry about how she doesn' t have good looks and doesn't deserve me but i'll comfort her and say I love her and eventually marry her because i'll keep on comforting her and helping her and shaping her into a tall and skinny girl. Also, acne isn't permanent and I hate makeup anyways.
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Put a gun to my head and force me to chose with only those descriptions... I'd chose the everyday girl. Frankly, I find the description of blondie a turn off.
It's not the blond hair that I am speaking about, it is the entire description. I guess I am revealing that despite my efforts, I might be playing to steriotypes... but I just don't find the description appealing.
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@barelybreathing:
Smarter than me? Now that's hot.
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In these cases, your sense of and desire for karmic retribution may be satisfied just knowing that she will be still thinking/saying/trying to project that when she is actually a sad and worn out shell of her former self... a poverty level single mother with few, if any opportunities available except maybe welfare.
No intervention for revenge required, some people just burn themselves down.
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If anyone in a relationship EVER tells you that, whether you are a man or a woman, the relationship is taking a turn for the toxic. They will tear you down and convince you that you are nothing, that you are worthless and dependent on them. These behaviors are clinically psychopathic and do not form heathy relationships. Anyone with the tiniest hint of codependency is especially vulnerable.
1. The author is making claims that long blond hair is preferable to un-styled brown hair. First of all, long isn't a style... Second of all do your research saying more men prefer brunettes to blonds. Here are a few websites, but again the stats aren't too overwhelming, its a matter of preference.
http://www.chacha.com/question/what-are-the-statistics-on-if-guys-prefer-brunettes-or-blondes (basic chacha)
http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_600/655_blondes-and-brunettes.html
And there are a lot of others but this is too full of bs for me to spend too much time on one stupid claim.
2. Weight. Okay girls (including myself) are obsessed with being skinny. Studies show than men, however, prefer NORMAL (note this doesn't mean average in America but just what is considered healthy) over super skinny weights.
http://www.chacha.com/question/what-weight-do-men-prefer-women-to-be
again more research to be done
3. acne- not gonna lie acne is undesirable, but it was probably just added in there to make it clearer girl 1 is better
4. outfit- Obviously looking sharp is important but just putting this out there everyone has days where they dress it down and if they are pretty enough they can still be attractive
5. Makeup/no makeup is a preferance and again just because you wear makeup one day doesn't mean you can't the other.
http://www.guysboysandmen.com/2011/04/do-men-like-makeup-on-women-real-guys.html?m=1
So in the end here is the take away message. Girl 1 isn't BETTER than girl 2 for ie makeup/outfit because you can apply that and change that. This is just kind of putting someone down for how they act but who wants someone that will never be girl 1 or girl 2? I think there are times to be both of them
You can only make the choice that does the least amount of damage and/or pisses off the fewest people.
Edited because I can't seem to spell.