I agree with this! Even if you're asking a guy out. Be forward, to the point, and make them comfortable. Make her laugh. Tell her she looks beautiful, and mean it.
When I asked my girlfriend out (over a year and a half ago), it was at a party. We were lying down in the grass in the yard, listening to the blasting music inside the house and the summertime crickets, just stargazing. I looked over toward her, and asked her if I could hold her hand. She giggled and agreed. Then I asked her if she thought she might be gay. She nodded, confused, but catching on. Finally, I used my last bit of the confidence I NEVER knew I had, and whispered, "Will you be my girlfriend?" By some miracle, she laughed shyly and said "yes!". Over a year and a half later we are still together. You'll never know if you don't try! You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
The message of decisiveness, confidence, and precision are good in most general situations. I have trouble with the language in the example though. The point of “going out” is to get to know a person better and allow things to naturally develop or not. Dating etiquette can change greatly with age and other factors- but imagine two people, mid 20’s and over, who have never met before, or only briefly chatted at work or school or wherever- and one asks the other to be their boyfriend/girlfriend? It might come off as a bit odd to ask for that level of commitment before you know if you can even stand having them around for a whole date let alone sharing a bed or eh hem... other compatibility issues. So if you already know them well enough that you won’t look crazy- by all means. But by that point you should likely have already gone out a few times at least, so it’s not an either or- it’s just the next step.
Yeah. People just need to make it fucking clear youre asking for a date and not something else.
You dont ask a coworker / classmate to work on something as a pretense to set up a date. You dont ask her out to the movies with a bunch of friends.
You fucking walk up, man and ask for an actual motherfucking date. Get coffee, go to the movies, go bungee jumping, just make it clear youre not asking a friend, youre asking someone with whom you might want to pursue a romantic relationship.
When I asked my girlfriend out (over a year and a half ago), it was at a party. We were lying down in the grass in the yard, listening to the blasting music inside the house and the summertime crickets, just stargazing. I looked over toward her, and asked her if I could hold her hand. She giggled and agreed. Then I asked her if she thought she might be gay. She nodded, confused, but catching on. Finally, I used my last bit of the confidence I NEVER knew I had, and whispered, "Will you be my girlfriend?" By some miracle, she laughed shyly and said "yes!". Over a year and a half later we are still together. You'll never know if you don't try! You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
You dont ask a coworker / classmate to work on something as a pretense to set up a date. You dont ask her out to the movies with a bunch of friends.
You fucking walk up, man and ask for an actual motherfucking date. Get coffee, go to the movies, go bungee jumping, just make it clear youre not asking a friend, youre asking someone with whom you might want to pursue a romantic relationship.
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