It’s just a reaction to the extreme intolerance. I don’t condone fighting fire with fire, just to be clear. I agree it’s annoying, and borderline narcissistic.
I feel like we should treat sexuality the same as a favourite colour. “I like guys.” “I like girls.” “I like purple”
It doesn’t make you any different and it doesn’t make you special either.
Sexual orientation isn’t something to be proud of any more than anything else you happen to be born with. That said- the whole point of “Gay Pride” and vocally proud and out gay folk is that society, for a long time in the west and still in much of the world (it’s not yet perfect in the west either...) told gays etc. they should be ashamed of who they are. You still have large number of people even in countries where homosexuality is legal and relatively normalized telling gays they are “abominations” “sick” “disgusting” “wrong” etc just for being... who they are. Only recently through much of the world has gay marriage even been legal and still many oppose it or try to overturn it, refuse to serve a person just because they are born a certain way.
So when the cake makers and law makers and the like stop telling gays etc. to either change who they are, or go be the way they were born somewhere else- that’s when perhaps I could agree with this sentiment. In 2019 there are still large numbers of people who believe being gay is something “wrong” or to be ashamed of. Something they don’t even want to be associated with. Until that changes the message isn’t one of narcissism- it’s one of defiance. The pride is the pride of overcoming the adversity the world puts before many people who aren’t straight and CIS gender.
I know someone who's entire identity revolves around them being bi. Like, they'll make queer jokes about themselves to the point of redundancy and it's getting on everyone's nerves.
To share from a gays point of view: I mean, I spent my entire life being told that I was wrong and going to hell, and getting beaten for it, then in the last 7 years it became easier. The reason people are so proud is because before now, you could get killed for this, and you still can. When people like me stop getting threatend and yelled at, then I feel like this will die down. I definitely don't condone using your sexuality as a personality, but I definitely see the way young gay people act as a way they are coping with the way they have been treated.
Thank you - a gay
I’m guessing this is another instance where the actual group doesn’t feel a certain way but people not in the group assume and report they do. Fox News says the LGBT community is shrill and wants the straights to feel bad about themselves so that’s what people think whether it’s actually true or not.
Y'all do know that trans-women are being killed on epidemic scales, right? And that gays are still thrown out of their homes and churches for being gay? That being bi is looked down on as being sluts by everyone? That lesbians are only accepted because horny men thinks it's sexy? They're persecuted and killed, so yes they should celebrate their existence.
Sane for mental illness. You come off quite vapid if you only ever talk about mental illness talk or lgbtq+ Topics.
You know the ones “I’m a fighter!” “Daily reminder I fought really hard against my depression!”
Well hell man. Someone screwed someone else- not hard to figure out really, and then one of em squoze out a naked mole rat (which literally billions of people have done,) and then you got hear about how hard that all is or how proud they are they figured out how their junk works for... literally the rest of their lives? That’s life though. No reason not to let people get by with what gets them by, unless it’s causing harm to someone else.
Sure. No harm if it’s not harming someone else. But in the end it’s just humblebragging and attention seeking behavior. It’s in the realm of the fishing for compliments or “ew I’m so ugly” behavior that radiates your non apparent personality. And I would argue that attention seeking behavior is harmful in the end.
Perhaps. That depends on how all parties handle it. Generally those seeking attention who regularly do not get it for a given behavior realize that behavior will not get what they want and stop it. They tend to; in some combination, move on to other behaviors for attention or in time make self discoveries that negate the need for such behaviors. Of course “harm” is relative- with “reality/influencer stars” and actual celebrities more or less making their entire lives and careers and all the benefits of such through seeking attention. There are dark sides to it and not dark sides- and who am I to say that the existential crises or emotional stunting/narcissism such celebrity status often brings isn’t a fair trade off for hundreds of millions of dollars? I’ve never walked that path.
But we all seek attention to some degree. Your coworker with the baby isn’t showing you their kid for YOUR benefit. Your friend with the new car isn’t likely showing you for your benefit either. If they didn’t keep track of player stats in pro sports and just scored games- so that no member of a team could be said any more valuable than another- if there were no hall of fame or rings or trophies, would so many people play or watch? Would people carry signs or paint their faces for the game or wear team colors if they didn’t want to be noticed? We could as easily say that so many types of people we encounter everyday do the same thing with other plugs to fill the hole of a lack of self achievement and personality. But we all can’t cure cancer or win the Olympic s or be renowned artists either- so I mean... people still want to feel like a part of something. Even the dull ones.
LGBTQ+ pride isn't about special treatment or rubbing it in other people's faces. It's about being proud of yourself and proud of the community for surviving everything and everyone who's been against it.
Trans folk that bare it like a symbol of power. It’s a tad bit annoying
It doesn’t make you any different and it doesn’t make you special either.
Thank you - a gay
You know the ones “I’m a fighter!” “Daily reminder I fought really hard against my depression!”